Everywhere you look around the web there’s always an article on how to find out if the other person wants to marry you. But what about how to know if you want to marry him or her?
No matter if you’ll be asked that question or you will be the one asking it, the best thing is to make that decision when you’re not so romantically blinded by the sunset, the roses, and the wine…
Every article on that website is designed to help you find the right person, fall in love, and start your fairytale story. Still, don’t believe in fairy tales? We do. Because we live in one of it.
How to know if you want to marry him/her?
“Because I can’t imagine my life without him/her” is the wrong answer. Moreover, a response like that means you have no idea why you love the other and why you want to get married. Usually, after such an epic statement life shows us that yes, we can and have to live without him/her.
Marriage is a relationship, but it is a commitment as well. And we often forget its meaning. To me, marriage is almost sacred and binds people together with the idea to be even stronger together.
Marriage gives us the opportunities to encourage each other to be even better versions of ourselves. It pushes the worst and the best out of us.
A successful marriage doesn’t ask but demands the ability to forgive, to compromise, to listen, to feel the other and to find love all over again, and again.
Nobody can tell us if our marriage will be successful or not. Yet, some aspects can guarantee you a pleasant start.
To be able to find the answer to your question if you want to marry him/her, that’s an unusual way to look at the things.
Everyday life can be hard sometimes. Either is going to be a rough day at work, an illness, “those days of the month” moodiness or a broken car – care is all we need to feel better.
The care for the other is half of the work for a successful marriage done.
Just think about it for a moment. What would it be a life with constant care for the other?
If he doesn’t feel well instead of moaning how men act like they’re dying every time they have a cold (for the record – yes, they do!), just put the pills in his hand, make him a tea and kiss him. Everyone needs that when they don’t feel well.
When she’s in her “moody” days, and it’s not fun to communicate, a simple hug and assurance she’s your beautiful girl could do wonders. If that doesn’t work, reach out to a woman’s best friend… No, it’s not diamonds. Chocolate! Chocolate is the woman’s best friend!
When the other feels stressed ask what happened, listen and sympathise instead of judging.
That’s care. And we need it every day of our lives. Please, offer the same or even more in return.
Life Goals and Plans
You need to share the same life goals and plans. Even if you’re so different and especially if you want to marry him/her.
What do I mean? Yes, you are different and should be like that. Yes, you have different dreams and goals you want to achieve, and it should be like that.
But they still have to match each other.
For instance – if your dream is to travel around the world till your middle 30s and live life day by day, and your partner’s vision is to get to the highest possible position in the company they work for… you know one of those is not going to happen.
To know if you really want to marry him/her, you need to walk in the same direction.
Achieving your dreams shouldn’t ruin his and vice versa.
I know I said compromises, but those are the compromises you shouldn’t do for anyone. Love is not based on that type of compromises.
You should both want children, or both don’t want children. You should both want a life on the road, or you should both like to settle in one place. The dreams are individual, but the direction has to be the same.